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So, I have been asked the question in the title so many times. I have
also asked my girlfriends this very same question. When I do, I have received mixed
responses. Things like "it depends who it is" and " how long I have known this person". They also pointed out that the actual first date may be a month after they met him.
I received all these responses as if there was a correct answer to whether it is okay or not. There is not a rule book on this topic, but the wrong answer can have serious consequences to your pride if you are in a judgmental atmosphere.
My personal opinion is you should be sexually intimate when you feel love is connected to the act. {Yes I'm a hopeless romantic and can not be remotely turned on unless I know this particular man loves me.} I know I gave you all the perfect pageant answer, however there are still holes in my philosophy. Falling in Love with someone could happen at any given time, I mean there is a such thing as love at first sight. Right?
Whether it's the 3rd date or after Marriage, I do feel there is one thing any sexually active adult could agree on. No matter when or how much time it took for the act to happen, the fact that it happened should be kept private!
A lot of times people (mainly males) love to brag about how quickly they received the goods, as well as females bragging about how long she was able to string him along before offering the goods. I'm not sure when this became the thing to do but it is very tacky. Naturally you speak about these things to your inner circle, but definitely not outside of that.
Granted I know how much a badge of honor it would be to sleep with me, so I understand wanting to Brag (LOL) Just Kidding. But on a serious note, Grow up, have some respect for the other person involved.
Moral of the story, there is not an official timeline for sex, however when participating in the act, use some etiquette and keep the act private.
Sincerely,
-Mariyah H
